Since the advent of the legalisation of gay marriage in the United Kingdom, numbers of both weddings and civil partnerships have been increasing among the LGBTQ community. While the burgeoning of gay weddings is a fantastic representation of social progression, it can cause a headache for those who once thought that the idea of marital bliss would never be a reality.
Gay, bisexual, straight or otherwise – planning a wedding can be a challenging task akin to staging a complex military exercise with diplomacy skills to match. Having some concrete ideas, careful planning and curating the wedding to your personal stylistic preferences can all help in easing the tension surrounding the planning process.
Don’t Act Impulsively
Getting engaged is one of the most thrilling and overwhelming events you’ll embark upon in your adult life. Overcome with emotion it might be tempting to impulse book what appears to be the superlative venue or band through the hue of lust and champagne. In reality, it’s best to let that initial flush of ecstasy settle before you commit to any financial obligations which might be regrettable later. Take your time making important decisions – especially ones with fiscal repercussions.
Make Lists & Create Mood Boards
It’ surprising what a dose of good old-fashioned pragmatism can do to help you gain some clarity when planning your dream gay wedding. Jotting down what is essential and what is superfluous can help you keep your plans within reasonable parameters. Mood boards can be an advantageous asset in the initial stages of planning a wedding. You can put down rudimentary terms for your big day such as vintage, classic or tweed. Alternatively, you can stick cutouts, photos and fabric swatches to your mood board for a more visual representation of ideas of your pending nuptials.
The average cost of a wedding is now staggering £27,161. While at first glance the figure might appear to be exorbitant, when you start to break down the cost of venues, food, outfits et al, the figure seems, if not feeble, at least not particularly extravagant. However much you’ve decided to spend on your wedding, it’s important to understand the practical applications of what this can buy you. Break down your budget allocating cash to the essential purchases like the venue before you start purchasing personalised wedding favours filled with individual birthstones. Starting off a married life in debt is no fun either. Of course, you want to have the best day possible, but don’t feel pressured into making questionable financial decisions just to make your day unnecessarily opulent.
Sorting the Paperwork
It’s hardly the most compelling part of planning a wedding but getting the correct paperwork is of critical importance – providing you want your ceremony to be legally binding. The procedure for getting married or having a civil partnership in the UK is reasonably elementary. You must give notice to your local register office and provide proof of your credentials such as name and address. The second part is the ceremony itself. This can either be a religious or civil ceremony whereby your wedding will be witnessed and ratified by at least two guests along with the person conducting the affair.
Don’t Plan the Wedding for Other People
It’s always a cordial act if you can accommodate reasonable requests and desires of close family and friends. However, don’t let external input from anybody influence your decisions to the detriment of your wedding wishes. Having a clear vision can prevent you from straying from the desires of you and your partner. It’s important to remember that it is your day and adjusting it to comply with the desires of others won’t, in the end, make you happy. This isn’t to say you can’t take on board from those whose opinions who you value – just moderate them. Keep your wedding personal to you. While external inspiration is always useful, don’t attempt to replicate something you see in a magazine at the expense of eradicating a sense of you, as a couple, from the event.
Take a Break
Planning a wedding can be a stressful experience. Remember, though it might be emotionally taxing at times, it’s only one day and the most important thing is spending your life with your prospective husband or wife. Take a step away from the planning and spend some quality time with that special somebody and remind yourself why you are marrying them rather than getting caught up in the trivial stresses of planning a wedding.
Stop Striving for Perfection
Finally, all the meticulous planning in the world cannot eradicate the chance of a hiccup or two. There’s no such thing a perfection and decisions will always come with caveats. Remain positive, remember why you are getting married and embrace and enjoy your wedding experience.